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Motherhood after Children Leave

 

Motherhood does not end when children leave the nest. But it’s “form,” or the way it lives inside us, changes.

A way of being must end, and this takes time.  It is helpful to look ahead, at the woman you want to be years down the road. Children will always have a relationship with their mother, even if it is only in their head.  They will also come home, as young adults, and also (hard to imagine) as parents themselves.

It is absolutely possible to shape the new woman you wish to be. It is deeply empowering and rejuvenating to do so intentionally. It takes a mother time to learn to listen to herself, rather than to her family.  Slowly, as she learns to listen deeply to her desires, hurts, and triumphs, a huge shift begins inside her.

Learning how to honor this evolutionary shift, and then to act upon it, is the foundation for transitioning out of the old way of being.  When the time feels right, this entire process is an organic one, full of discovery, shaky steps, and much joy.

We have earned it.